Growing Pains @mervmcq
I’m not talking about one of my favorite family sitcoms of the 90’s but how I currently feel. You too are probably feeling all kinds of aches, whether emotional, physical or otherwise. These feelings of discomfort are a great time for growth. In high school, my teacher told me that I should not take her academic English courses because she surmised that I lacked the potential to succeed in University. I was heartbroken, and this was an emotional ache for years, I often reflected on her statement and at first, I believed her. Obviously, I mustn’t have what it took, she was the teacher, she knows best. I eventually took this comment and used it as a driving force, I would get to university, I would prove her wrong.
Initially her comment was an attack on my ability, I thought I was incapable but once I changed my perspective, I realized that I can do anything I put my mind to. Fast forward to my first day at York University, the coordinator of the program was preparing us for our year ahead, he shared a quote, wishing that we had a rough journey. Everyone was surprised to hear him say this, I myself was thinking, “shouldn’t he be wishing us well,” but in fact, he was; by advising us to have a rough life, he was not saying that we will not be successful, but rather that he hopes that we have robust and at times difficult experiences because without these “growing pain”, life may be dull and lackluster.
Lastly, please embrace these feelings of discomfort, they are not in vain. You may feel broke, sad, disoriented or a mix of these feelings, but they build character. I’ll leave you with a quote from the American psychologist, Abraham Maslow, “In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety”. I urge you to get out of your comfort zone and enjoy your rough journey!